NORTH DAKOTA PARENTING PLAN [MODEL]
North Dakota law requires parents to create their own parenting plan that will direct them
in their efforts to maintain a parent-child relationship beneficial to the child. This
information is offered to assist parents as they live apart and to promote the best interests
and welfare of their children. A powerful cause of stress, suffering, and maladjustment in
children of separated parents is not simply separation itself, but continuing conflict
between parents, before, during, and after their separation, whether through divorce,
separation, or as unmarried parents.
Co-parenting after separation presents many challenges. It is not easy to put your
children’s needs ahead of your own often intense feelings and fears. When parental
maturity, personality, and communication skills are adequate, the ideal arrangement is
reasonable parenting time with the other parent on reasonable notice, since that provides
the greatest flexibility. A good arrangement is a detailed parenting plan made by the
parents to fit their particular needs and, more importantly, the needs of the individual
child. If the parents are unable to agree, this model can be useful, unless a different
parenting plan is court ordered. For most parents, this model should be considered as
only a minimum direction for interaction with the children.
PARENTING TIPS referring to these parenting tips from time to time may help you
master successful co-parenting.
Parents should always speak positively about one another and should firmly encourage
such conduct by relatives or friends. Each parent should encourage the children to respect
the other parent. Children should never be used by one parent to spy or report on the
other. The basic rules of conduct and discipline should be respected so that the children
receive consistent messages about appropriate behavior.
Children benefit from continued contact with all important people in their lives for whom
they have an established healthy bond. Such relationships should be protected and
encouraged, and all should speak positively of both parents in front of the children.
Parents should have their children maintain ties with both the maternal and paternal
relatives. Usually the children will visit with the paternal relatives during times the
children are with their father and with the maternal relatives during times they are with
Neither parenting time nor child support is to be withheld because of either parent's
failure to comply with a court order. Only the Court may enter sanctions for non-
compliance. Children have a right both to support and to parenting time, neither of which
is dependent upon the other. In other words, unpaid support does not mean no parenting
time, and no parenting time does not mean you don’t pay your support. For a violation of
a support order, the remedy is to apply to the court for appropriate sanctions.