capt ured in t hose let t ers writ t en days, mont hs, and years bef ore our marriage.
It was super easy, as a young t een, to be swept away in f airy-t ale f ant asies and crushes.
Societ y, movies, and music equat e love wit h sex, and make a lif et ime of breakups and broken
heart s seem “normal.” But writing love let t ers t o my husband grounded me in realit y. Each
moment t hat I scribbled a not e, my f ut ure husband was out t here–a real man, who I would
marry and raise a f amily wit h.
You Can Write Love Letters to Your Future Spouse, Too!
Give yourself a second chance—We all make mist akes and mess up. Even if you’ve
given yourself in impure ways, it ’s never too lat e t o st art writing t o your husband. Writ ing
t o him can mot ivat e you t o embrace purit y in a whole new way!
Get creative—You don’t even need a not ebook. You can st ick all of your let t ers in a
f older. Or you can put lit t le love not es in a jar. What ever works best f or you, f igure it out
and go wit h it !
Don’t get discouraged—Somet imes, I would be tempt ed t o st op writing let t ers all
t oget her, since I wouldn’t writ e for weeks or mont hs at a t ime. It’s pathetic, I would think. I
have so few. Don’t let t hat st op you! Your fut ure spouse will love you and appreciat e any
number of let t ers t hat you writ e t o him/her. Just keep writing!
Write about anything—Tell him/her about your dreams, hopes, what you’re excited for
in marriage, what prayers you’ve been praying for him/her (f or example, “I said a prayer
f or you while washing dishes t oday”).
It doesn’t end with marriage—Once you’re married, you can keep secret ly writing love
let t ers t o your spouse. Whet her you hide t hem around the house or give t hem direct ly t o
your spouse, he/she will love t hem. One morning, my husband lef t for an out -of -st at e
t rip ext remely early. When I woke up lat er, I f ound that he had t aped love not es all over
our apart ment! Small gest ures like t hat are wonderf ul ways t o show your love.
Above all, it ’s good t o ask yourself: “How can I best love my future spouse?”
Anne Marie Miller st udies T heology and English at Franciscan Universit y of St eubenville. She
has a passion f or t he Cat holic Fait h, chast it y, and St . Francis of Assisi, and f rolicking around
baref oot . In August 2013, she was blessed to marry her incredible husband, and t he t wo of
t hem enjoy t he epic advent ures of married college lif e. When she’s not doing homework,
housework, cooking, or playing chess, AnneMarie ref lect s on her random observat ions on her
blog, Sacrif ice of Love. (ht t p://marianninja.blogspot .com)